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Just In! Be Curious, Not Furious

June 21st, 2018

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In the book “Wait, What?” James Ryan, Dean, Harvard Graduate School of Education, reminds us that clarity, compassion and wisdom come from asking questions.

So what?

If you are, or aspire to be, a leader there are bound to be occasions when you feel angry – because you’ve been hurt, are worried about impending disaster, want to push others away or are simply using anger to get attention or to prove your point of view. No matter the cause, Ryan’s five essential questions that lead to a happier and more successful life can help.  They move you beyond what you think you know to explore the “difficult, the unknown, the awkward and even the unpleasant” to reach deeper understanding and more meaningful connections.







What do to?

The next time you feel anger bubbling up, ask:

  1. Wait, What? – it causes all involved to stop and think about what is causing their behavior.
  2. I wonder? – a query that prompts you to look beyond the immediate moment.
  3. Couldn’t we at least? – a first step.  It is the beginning of progress.
  4. How can I help? – conveys that you want a good relationship.
  5. What truly matters? – causes all involved to get to the heart of the issue.

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